Be the B.E.S.T. version of YOU

This technique is number six in the nine step process for Mind-less meditation, but I encourage you to make it a habit and use it in different situations where your buttons are pressed, you’ve reacted negatively to someone or something, and/or you’re anxious and unsure of how to handle a situation. It will radically change what could potentially be a disastrous outcome. Blurting out the wrong thing because of an explosive reaction can cause a ‘Damn! I wish I never said that!’ moment, and potentially years of unnecessary misunderstanding, but if you can catch yourself before reacting and go through the B.E.S.T. technique, it can save a hell of a lot of back peddling! It’s a great habit to form because it gets us out of our human experience and assists our journey back to love, with grace and understanding.

B stands for Breath

Take a breath into the area that always tightens up when you are stressed. Put your fingers about five centimetres down from the bra strap (Ok just imagine that if you are a bloke). It is the height of the solar plexus. Imagine breathing down into your pelvic area, the energy centre that grounds us and creates emotional resilience. Yes I know you can’t physically breath right down into your pelvis, it’s just the intention that really centres us. If you’re truly using your diaphragm, when you breath, the large dome-shaped muscle will stretch down and your stomach will expand right out. Check out my breathing video here

Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. The out breath being longer than the in one. Now you’re on the road to a lovely calm peaceful place.

E stands for Eyes

Focus on a spot higher than your line of vision and then, without moving your eyes, use your peripheral vision to look around to your left and then to your right. The spot we were focusing on becomes blurry as our vision softens. This allows us to get into the Alpha/Theta border, that trance/day dreaming state. Out of the reactive conscious mind and into the “I just do as I’m told” subconscious mind. After practicing this a few times it’s easy to do left and right simultaneously like an open fan. And yes it’s important where your eyes are. It’s an NLP thing.

S stands for Surrender

Observe how we grip on to our issues like a starving dog with a bone. Trying to justify that we’re right at every turn. Now you’re in the trance like state, you’ll be able to observe the resistance. Let go of the judgement and ask the Loving Unity of All that is ( God, Universal Wisdom, The quantum field etc) to take care of any problems and deal with the tough questions. It’s getting out-of-the-way of being ourselves, always at the mercy of our chattering, reactive conscious mind, so we can hear the answer. Maybe the answers aren’t always obvious, but trust that they’ll come at the perfect time in the perfect way.

T stands for Truth

The truth is always love. Anything that’s not love is the illusion, the drama. Take the elevator down from your head and breathe in to your heart. Your heart is much more intelligent, and reacts faster than your head. Observe the energy flowing and ask what would love say/do/be? Can we turn defensive in to defenceless? Feeling compassion, getting vulnerable, and forgiving ourselves first for holding on to and believing in a negative situation and judging other people, changes the perspective and allows us to forgive others. If it doesn’t happen straight away, trust that when you practice this and it becomes a habit, life will get easier. The key is to create a simple life, living in love.